Thursday, August 19, 2010

Love Is / Is Not Easy

-Love is not easy- This was the topic being debated during the first round of debate at DTC University Malaya yesterday.

A few points to ponder upon..

1. Is love difficult?
Yes, love is difficult because both parties have to tolerate each other, building up the trust, respect, responsibility and love whole heartedly.
No, love is not difficult as long as both parties tolerate each other, building up the trust, respect, responsibility and love whole heartedly.

See, in conclusion, love is simple because it can be both ways and yet love is complicated because it can be both ways.

2. There is no fixed module of love.
Totally agree on this. There shall not be any comparison. Love is not a number which can be graded. You will never know how much a person loves you. Even you yourself couldnt gauge how much is your love towards your lover. Because love is not mathematically derived. I would say it's a nature instinct and the greatest element that god creates for life. Love is not a subject paper that can be tested or examined. But then, there is a subject named "Paktology" (Subject of love) being creatively created by my coursemates. This is quite amusing indeed. =) And we wish friends to score an A for their paktology so as to say we hope that they will find their soul mates soon.

3. Why lovers break up and divorce?
Reasons suggested - because they are not suitable, they have no longer adore each other.
What I would like to say is, all of these are not love. These are just sort of temporary admiration or self-satisfied endeavours which are totally immature. What makes up a couple is that they endure and overcome all odds and hurdles together. All the incidents strengthen the bond between a couple. People fall in love at the first place, as time goes by, love is not purely I love you and you loves me. The love slowly adds in the sense of responsibility and willingness to live and support each other as long as the breaths are still being taken in and the hearts are still beating. One has to bear the responsibility for one's decision. You've made the choice and you shall make things right at all cost. Giving up a relationship, beating up your partner, torturing each other, committing suicide etc are not the ways an adult should behave. We are humans, and what makes the difference between us and animals? It's because we are blessed by god with an advanced brain which we shall be able to integrate, interpret, think and act with logics, humanity and rationality. So, think and act wisely for your actions, not only in the matter of love affairs, but also in every single minor aspect of your life.

Lastly, a mature love can makes a couple go further whereas an immature love can be destructive, not only to the lovers, but also to the people around them- the family, the innocent children and even the society. Love is not a burden. You just need to make the souls of two different entities merge. Sincerity makes love beautiful and Love makes the world beautiful. =D


Love is patient,love is kind.It does not envy,it does not boast,it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. . .And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. -1 Corinthians 13-


Above are just some personal thoughts, readers please don't be irritated if you disagree with me. This is not from love expert nor paktology A scorer~ LOL

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